Sunday, January 28, 2018

Arguing 101

A few years ago, I remember having a conversation with a 4th grader about how deeply unfair it was that her friend would play tag with her, but then refuse to acknowledge that she had been tagged. This was a 20 minute conversation that was honestly one of the most passionate debates I'd ever witnessed.

We like to think of "arguments" as this specific visual we get from the movies: with people screaming and throwing things and crying in the corner. But I also remember standing in the classroom of a bunch of fifth graders who were begging me to teach them how to argue. 

It was hilarious.

These guys got the idea: arguing is the presentation of ideas. And it's particularly important to understand that your ideas might not get adopted by the other side. (THAT point was a little harder to get the 5th graders to understand, but hey, there are a lot of us who have a hard time with that...myself included.)

Today, it's assumed that we argue about things that carry a little more weight. And that's what we covered tonight: arguing for the right causes. Arguing the right way. And arguing with the resolution to learn something - about others, about ourselves - is the right way to argue. Heck...to live.

Strengthen your resolve, guys. Argue with those whom you love: in order to discover things that will help us all be better people. And always remember that this is what we're here for - to make each other better, and to be better ourselves.

"Let us then pursue what leads to peace and to building up one another."
~ Romans 14:19

Much love,
Ceci Galvin
CYM, St. John the Evangelist